A Story From Our Therapy Department:
It’s easy to believe some people will never change. A lot of people thought that about Sharon. After 23 years of using Meth and letting herself and others down, people in her family had pretty much written her off. A few years ago she appeared on my calendar for an intake and some staff persons who had been around a while seemed to have a hard time understanding why we were giving her another chance in the CRT program. Their concerns seemed to be justified for most of the first year. She seemed to be trying to get sober but her episodes of use was occurring too often to call relapses. She seldom came in for individual or group therapy. She was often very angry about what appeared to be natural consequences, such as being evicted from hotels and other lost opportunities.
A little over a year ago, something began to shift in Sharon’s life. She started attending PSR regularly and later on began attending therapy consistently. She started talking a lot about “taking personal responsibility” and expressing a strong desire to rebuild her relationships with her children. Sharon has had some bumps in the road over the last year but she’s the first to admit her own mistakes. It is clear she is eager to know the truth, even when it is painful. In the last year she has spent a lot of time with her teenage daughter and recently started parenting classes to help her manage that sometimes difficult but rewarding relationship. Just this week Sharon said that her adult son is, “finally believing that I’ve really changed” and is spending a lot of time with her. She can still show some anger but more often she expresses a contagious gratitude and enthusiasm for life. She is one of those important encouraging people at St. Martin’s that, just a little over a year ago, seemed like she would never change.